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By Sam Berrisford, Senior Consultant, Change & Internal Communications, London

The Friendship of Strangers

Reflecting on working and travelling overseas I am struck by the openess of accidental encounters. The willingness of people to help a stranger. The gift of friendship even if only for a few brief moments.

I've noticed, as well, that this impulse to support people who need help seems to be a common human characteristic. It transcends race, religion, culture and crosses generations and gender. It seems to have deep roots in our collective psyche. What is going on?

Although this basic state of goodwill seems universal - it obviously doesn't always work that way. The exception does prove the rule in this case.

Take, for example, an incident of racial abuse last Friday on the 1722 for Hereford out of Paddington railway station, London.

The train was very crowded as it always is on Friday evening and a black couple had had the foresight to book their seats in advance. Somebody had occupied one of the seats. When they asked him to move they were subjected to a sustained torrent of abuse. It was bullying and demeaning and deeply racist. The coach was shocked into silence.

A passenger who witnessed this fetched the train manager. She confronted the racist. Ordered him out of the seat. Called the transport police and had the man, a middle aged business type in pinstripes, removed from the train.

Our train manager, better described as the 'guard' (a good title for this 5' 3" lioness), then made an announcement apologising for the delay and to those who had been affected by the incident. She thanked the people who had supported her.

Our couple kept their silence and their dignity throughout.

So here, on a regular commuter train out of London, was a demonstration of physical and moral courage by an empowered individual. She could do this because she had guts and knew she had the support of the other passengers

I don't want to labour the point of telling this story, but the moral must be clear. It is OK to stand up to evil and ugliness wherever you encounter it. You will find allies, supporters and others of goodwill who will join you.

Sometimes the relationships of power in the workplace can make this hard. Those of us who work inside organisations have an obligation to help make it a safe place to challenge the bullies and the racists.

A place where the friendship of strangers can flourish.


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Published 21 July 2007 11:33 by Sam Berrisford

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About Sam Berrisford

With over fifteen years experience as a business communicator, Sam is a senior consultant with the Change and Internal Communications practice at Hill & Knowlton. Before joining Hill & Knowlton, Sam worked at Royal Mail Group and more recently at the BBC. Here he helped develop a range of strategic, culture change and internal marketing programmes – managing stakeholder relationships in a complex and uncertain organisational environment. Sam has a background in broadcast journalism. He is a performance coach and creative facilitator. He regularly speaks at conferences in the UK and overseas and has published articles on many aspects of business and stakeholder communications. He is an Accredited Business Communicator and a former UK president of the International Association of Business Communicators. Sam has two children in their twenties and is an enthusiastic sailor, bonsai grower and photographer. When not doing any of these things he likes to curl up with a good book.