Oct
2006
Watch your words, for they become actions…
«I write differently from the way I speak, I speak differently from the way I think, I think differently from the way I should think – and so it goes on into the darkest depths of infinity»
(Franz Kafka, Letter to Ottla, July 10, 1914)
Personally, I write better than I speak – or, at least, it’s certainly very different. Perhaps it’s because too often I speak before thinking (and regularly suffer the consequences for it) and the act of writing forces me to reverse that. Or it’s simply that my brain functions differently from those with the gift of the gab. For the most part I am more concise and considered when I write. I enjoy constructing sentences and words on pages. Although, as I find myself speaking publicly more and more (and getting tired of the shoe in my mouth), I am beginning to consider words and phrases more carefully, from the perspective of how they sound when actually voiced, and the “theatre” behind their construction and presentation.
This quote – which I have added to the others above my desk – reinforces the importance of reading between the lines, considering the motives and intentions that lie behind the spoken or written word, and realizing that communication is very much about examining issues from perspectives that we might not understand or even be comfortable with. While structure, focus and discipline may be core elements of communication, I am not so certain that we will ever fully eliminate the ambiguities between what people say and what they think, and what people want us to think.
And that’s where the fun begins… because it is words that typically drive actions, which drive reputation, or as the line below (no attribution, apologies) so elonquently states:
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”